Dear Shawna, I am a 22 year old female and I have a question. After dating exclusively for 3 months, my boyfriend who is 25, informs me he will not be spending Christmas with me. He will be in Mexico with his ex and her family. I knew when I started dating him that he was fresh out of a relationship, but this is weird right? Help!
Oh, my poor, naive friend! This has a stench that can be smelled from miles away!!! This is so Sus as kids these days would say. Maybe? Not sure if they still say it… Drop the loser and move on!
You did ask him why, right? Not that this answer matters, but the reasoning behind his thinking would be cool to investigate, kind of like we do serial killers’ minds.
Did he honestly think you would approve this? I think you are dating someone who’s elevator doesn’t go all the way to the top! He’s one call away from winning a straight jacket and shackles!
Ask him If he understands what this could mean to your relationship. Tell him you don’t care about the money he will lose by not going on a family vacation with his ex.
The fact of the matter is as clear as those boring clear Christmas lights, is he doesn’t respect you! He is still holding on to her like a nerdy middle-aged man does their collection of Star Wars stuff.
Him even thinking about going tells me it’s not serious with you, he sees no future. Instead of trying to make him realize it’s wrong, just ghost him! I don’t mean like the Ghost of Christmas Past where it comes back to check-in. Ghost him for good! Here’s to the hopes of a Christmas miracle and you realizing your worth.
JINGLE ALL THE WAY OUTTA THIS RELATIONSHIP AND MOVE ON!!! ~ Shawna