Mildly Classy
Dear Shawna, My live-in-boyfriend of 3 years has always called my 2 children, who also live with us, my mistakes from my past. How do I make him stop? At first, it was kind of cute now it’s just annoying. Help!
You have got to be kidding me right? Are you an idiot!! I’d be damned if anyone ever called my kids a “Mistake”. I don’t care if your kids were planned or not those are your kids. You were the mom God choose for those babies. You are suppose to be their protector and your home their happy place.
If you give time to the lie of them being a mistake, even if just for a minute, you are undeserving of motherhood. My blood is boiling right now, if I knew where you lived I would march right on over there and knock some sense into your dimwitted self! Did you hit your head and lose common sense?
Your kids deserve so much more. I honestly could care less about you. If you want to stay with a “man” who calls your children mistakes from the past you deserve a slow painful death.
You said, live-in-boyfriend. I’m assuming he lives in your house? Honey. Please. Let’s not allow a man who is more than likely mooching off of you, probably doesn’t even have a job, or can’t keep a job to be allowed anywhere near your children.
There isn’t a man in the world I wouldn’t go toe to toe with if he said one negative thing about my kids or treated them poorly. Heck no! I might not win in the fight, but Lord have mercy on the fool who talks about one of my kids. I know how to plow over a speed bump, with little to no damage to my truck. I assume hitting a man feels about the same.
I will be an old lady surrounded by hundreds of cats before I allowed this to be my reality.
Your dearly betrothed sounds like he needs to be thrown right out of your house. I can guarantee there are men out there who would love your kids as their own, treat them well and hold down a 9 to 5.
A clean slate is a fresh start. Once all the trash is out, including your boyfriend, you need to mend things with your children. Prove to your kids every day that you have their backs. Mom is in their corner. Always. Do better Mom you and those kids deserve so much more than a warm body and trash mouth out of a man.
~ Shawna
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