Mildly Classy
Dear Shawna, Help! My boyfriend insists he is 6 foot tall, but he isn’t. I have never dated anyone under 6’1 and it’s low-key driving me crazy he won’t own up to the fact that he’s not 6 foot.
Oh, HONEY, this is a tough one. I’m not sure what it is with men and their height, but ihonestly, there is no shame if you didn’t grow to be 6 feet! Maybe a tall lady would love a pint-sized fellow. The problem isn’t that you are not 6 feet tall and bulletproof, the problem is you lied about it. Height being something you can easily prove or check isn’t something you should waste a lie on… I understand where you are coming from. I understand the frustration you have about being lied to, but if you didn’t specifically say in your online profile “ Those under 6 foot need not apply” why are you so bent out of shape about it? What does his height have to do with him not being a good potential partner when it comes to dating?
Let’s get something straight, there are many famous couples with visible height differences. Take Matt Roloff and his new wife, Caryn. He is a little person married to an average size woman. Their marriage seems to be working out. While his marriage with his ex-wife and little Person Amy didn’t. I don’t think it was their height that separated them. More than likely she grew tired of having to listen to him speak and wanted out.
Maybe you should give your boyfriend some grace and let him continue his façade to be this huge 6-foot tall, dark, and handsome man he thinks he is. What’s it hurting? Unless he is asking you to carry him around in a baby carrier when y’all go places I see no problem with dating a shorter man.
But…. In My personal preference, I need someone who balances me out aesthetically. Ya see I’m a short, plump lady so a fella who is also my same body shape and height isn’t going to work. We can’t both be short and fat. I need a little height to draw the eye up and away from the midsection where all my extra fluff is, so a tall man works out for me.
Of course, being 5”4’ and having a man who’s 6”7’ is a huge perk when it comes to reaching things off the top shelf at the grocery store. Having someone who commands attention when walking into a room means I can look like 7 miles of lease road and not be the talk of the room. It’s a perk and a curse... curse is someone is always staring which makes me think I’m walking around with lipstick all over my teeth.
I’ll leave you with this knowledge. If it is bothering you so deeply that you need to measure him, DO It! Grab a tape measure and measure him. But the next time you lie about your weight , be ready for him to whip out a scale. If you wanna play the game let’s make sure it’s played fairly without any loopholes.
At the end of the day, it’s all about how well y’all Vibe. If you are comfortable with him lying about a couple of inches I’m sure he’s okay with you lying about a couple of pounds...
~ Shawna