Hey, girl hey! Let’s talk friendship. I don’t mean acquaintances, I mean those friends who have seen you ugly cry at 2 am and not because you were intoxicated but because at that very moment in time your world was falling apart or so you thought. Yes, that’s friend the who comes to mind as you read this. The one who is always there to help put the pieces back together. It could be the quiet more reserved sister who will have your back in all situations, a cousin, or possibly even that “mean girl” you meet at your first job with the best butter stars I have ever seen! Turned Ride or die. (Restaurant/ server gig way back when) Let’s talk about how friendship is just as time-consuming if not more than an actual relationship. Let’s talk about how we send texts or leave voice mails saying “It’s been too long let’s grab dinner soon” but it never happens. I understand girl, we all have super busy lives, we can all think of more productive things we could be pouring our time and energy into rather than chitchatting on the phone every day after work.
But, the truth of the matter is these friendships are just as important in life and we often take them for granted. We forget the phone works both ways. We forget that yes, sometimes we overreact to the silliest of things out of pure emotion and don’t think them out.
This being said I know the next couple of months are going to get super busy. There will be kids with extravagant costume ideas you are left to make happen so that they wow their friends at the Halloween party. Classroom mom duties to make sure the snack you take on your little snack days is Pinterest-worthy.
Then November, and that means Impressing your family with your famous Mouth watering Brussels Sprouts recipe that everyone is way too full or doesn’t happen to leave any room on their plate to try by the time you bring it out after someone hiding it in the corner behind the potatoes. Couldn’t be me! I’m an I’ll bring the diner ware, red solo cups, napkins kinda girl. If I’m feeling super fancy I’ll bring the sister Schubert rolls I snagged from my sams curbside order. Don’t be appalled! I warm Them up in the oven to a golden brown and I always splurge and get 3 family-size bags.
Then it’s Black Friday my favorite, I thrive on chaos, outof- control people, and deals I can’t pass up knowing I honestly don’t need them.
But during all these daunting chores make time for the friends who have helped you along the way. I realize that “friends” come and go and the grief that comes from The loss of those you thought would be around for the long haul is real and often heartbreaking. But stand firm on the decision you made and don’t make excuses to keep bad company. My wise momma use to say Guilty by association and this has way more meaning now that I’m older than it ever did back then. You don’t want to spare the time and energy for a bad friend. Don’t be guilty by association. You are the friends you keep. Make wise chores on who you call a Friend.
I know life is a whole lot easier when you find your tribe and can confide in them when your world is falling apart. A true friend is the first one to applaud you on all your accomplishments both monumental and trivial. You can usually tell a fraud when you see or interact with them keeping those at an arm’s distance.
There is no room in your life for Fair weather friends. You deserve friends who will come into your home when there are no carpet lines vacuumed in your carpet and not judge your housekeeping skills. A friend who will be there to help with the laundry while eating a pizza (or salad if she’s a Uber fancy macro counting friend) on days it’s too overwhelming to get out of your comfy clothes and get to the actual restaurant.
If you are making sure you get all those steps in to look and feel your best make sure you are stepping away from people and places who don’t add any value to your life. True Friends will never be so mentally or physically draining that you feel worse after spending any amount of time with them!! As always keep it Very Sassy mildly classy! -Shawna If you or anyone you know is needing help with the questions you already know the answers to but need some reassurance let me, your new bold Bestie help ya out. shot me an email at Shawnasaveme@gmail.com.
NO, AND I mean No questions are off limits… Ask and you shall receive A Very Sassy and mildly classy response!!!